There are some smart cookies around these parts, that I know, that I am sure of.
After 3 horrendous years, I am trying to get my life back on track. It’s a learning curve and there have been many changes had to be made. What I want from you, is your help and advice please. I always appreciate anyone and everyone’s input, don’t be afraid that I am gonna have a go at you or slag you off, I’m not ok.
I was always fairly laid back kinda guy. But these days, I find people [certain people] get on my nerves very quickly and often that’s because of the way they talk to me. I am 46, have lived, been there, done that, got the t shirt. I am not stupid, nor too clever or intelligent. I am your ordinary joe. But what I dislike is
A: People who insist on patronising me/you/anyone.
B: People who are condescending in attitude toward me or anyone else.
C: Pseudo Psychologists who have no training, no experience and no idea wtf they are talking about.
D: People who are aggressive and intimidatory in conversation.
What I need is to learn again how to deal with people like these, and situations that arise. I am never too proud to think I have all the answers, far from it. I try to be assertive, but hate upsetting anyone. I try desperately hard to be reasonable and not talk down to anyone or think I am in some way superior. I just want to be liked, but don’t want people taking advantage of my good nature anymore. This time has to be different, or I am going to head right back to square one again. I have started standing my ground again, but then the old doubts creep back in and I end up being the one holding the olive branch when I know deep down, I should have stayed put. Others always look to me like they do worse than I do, but they get away with it. People still like them etc etc. My son, sheeesh, when he has his managers hat on is a pain in the arse. He is great when relaxed and laughing and joking and we get on just fine. Maybe people would respect me more if I were not a doormat?
Thoughts, ideas, suggestions all most gratefully received, greatly appreciated and given my full and undivided attention.