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Givin’ it to you straight!

There are some smart cookies around these parts, that I know, that I am sure of.

After 3 horrendous years, I am trying to get my life back on track. It’s a learning curve and there have been many changes had to be made. What I want from you, is your help and advice please. I always appreciate anyone and everyone’s input, don’t be afraid that I am gonna have a go at you or slag you off, I’m not ok.

I was always fairly laid back kinda guy. But these days, I find people [certain people] get on my nerves very quickly and often that’s because of the way they talk to me. I am 46, have lived, been there, done that, got the t shirt. I am not stupid, nor too clever or intelligent. I am your ordinary joe. But what I dislike is

A: People who insist on patronising me/you/anyone.

B: People who are condescending in attitude toward me or anyone else.

C: Pseudo Psychologists who have no training, no experience and no idea wtf they are talking about.

D: People who are aggressive and intimidatory in conversation.

What I need is to learn again how to deal with people like these, and situations that arise. I am never too proud to think I have all the answers, far from it. I try to be assertive, but hate upsetting anyone. I try desperately hard to be reasonable and not talk down to anyone or think I am in some way superior. I just want to be liked, but don’t want people taking advantage of my good nature anymore. This time has to be different, or I am going to head right back to square one again. I have started standing my ground again, but then the old doubts creep back in and I end up being the one holding the olive branch when I know deep down, I should have stayed put. Others always look to me like they do worse than I do, but they get away with it. People still like them etc etc. My son, sheeesh, when he has his managers hat on is a pain in the arse. He is great when relaxed and laughing and joking and we get on just fine. Maybe people would respect me more if I were not a doormat?

Thoughts, ideas, suggestions all most gratefully received, greatly appreciated and given my full and undivided attention.



Purple Pain in the Ass, The Avatar is Born

Purple Pain in the Ass, The Avatar is Born.

Purple Pain in the Ass, The Avatar is Born

By now, you might have noticed a familiar theme running through this blog.


WTF is my obsession with the colour? No, I am not Prince or even a fan of his, although I do love When Doves Cry. No, its something more than that and just something that, as in life, just came about. Let me explain.

The title of this blog refers to poker, The life and times of a wannabe poker player and the bloggers name also makes a reference to that. I am Tino11 to my poker friends and opponents. But it’s not always possible to have a username or screen name of your choosing. In this instance, I could not use Tino, but I could use Pspacer11, which refers to the online poker community I have been a member of for getting on 2 yrs now. Pokerspace is the name of the forum, so I adapted that, and my Tino11 tag to make Pspacer11.

It’s through that site that all the purple stuff arose.

Pokerspace run a poker tournament each year called the Crew Cup. Its contested by crews that are made up of up to 6 players. The top 3 players score, blah blah blah, I wont bore you with the ins and outs. Suffice to say, I joined a crew called the MnM’s. Nice enough bunch of folks. There was Marcus the orange MnM, Derek the red MnM, Terri the green MnM, Brian the yellow MnM, Joe the blue MnM and Tino [me] without a colour. I found a site where you could design your own MnM character and I ended up with purple, which I liked and the avatar was cute. I got my good mate Dave to make a few adjustments and The Purple MnM was created in all its glory.

This little creation incorporated my passion for football [soccer to the heathens] and my favourite football club, Notts County. I was over the moon with this avatar and he became a part of me, just a small part, but he was my poker persona when playing.

During one Crew Cup qualifier, I was seated with my arch-enemy and nemesis iceman1967. A very accomplished poker player, but a real dickhead of a person. He should be called Marmite, you either love him or hate him. I respect his game, but not him as a person. Anyway, in an almost resigned tone, he commented via the in-game chat,

“Oh no, here comes the purple pain in the arse”

It was seen by myself as a compliment of sorts. He noticed me, he knew I was there and he knew I was a danger [we also met in the final game where I took him out of the game to win us the Trip to Vegas, he was steaming, lol]. But the name kinda stuck and I was looked upon by my crewmates as the Purple Pain in the Ass.

After the event, the crew broke up. Some of us still speak occasionally, but the purple stayed with me and was incorporated into a new avatar that is still in use today when I am posting blogs, comments or threads.

It just so happens, that the new Notts County strip includes some purple trim, so it blends well with my purple theme. I owe Dave a favour or two for his help. He uses Photoshop for a living and doing crap like avatars takes him seconds, whereas I would be on all afternoon.

So having been the one and only Purple MnM, to being a Purple Pain in the Ass, the colour is ingrained in me now and I must admit, upon reflection, I never had any issues with the colour and now I love it. I am a pain in the ass most of the time, but now I have a reputation to live down to, lol.